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The wordsmith yapper jumped out. In this episode we're talking about friendship sustainability and social portion control. I would elaborate but that's what the podcast is for.
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Friendship Expert https://www.tiktok.com/@thefriendshipexpert?lang=en
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00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives
00:51 Moral Dilemma
03:31 Social Portion Control
05:36 Friendship Formula
13:02 Sustaining Friendships
17:41 In Conclusion
In this episode of 'No Deep Dives', Flex dives into friendship sustainability (reduce, reuse, recycle,) and concept she termed 'social portion control'. Flex explores the nuances of enjoyment in eating, posing thought-provoking questions about preferences in the act of chewing vs. swallowing food, and relating these to broader themes of pleasure and consumption in life.
The concept of 'social portion control' is elaborated as an indicator of healthy relationships, where mutual understanding and reciprocity are key. The podcast also touches on the complexities of sustaining friendships, the role of expectations in relationship dynamics, and the challenges of friendship breakdowns.
Flex concludes with an innovative approach to friendship, suggesting a 'reduce, reuse, recycle' strategy for building and maintaining relationships, emphasizing a sustainable approach to social connections.
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Sorry to stress you out!!!! I've had an epiphany spurred by flashbacks of Year 10 Religion classes. Didn't we learn in Buddhism that desire is suffering? So, the pursuit of joy is riddled with pain? Maybe the "bad" stuff we experience doesn't exactly mean that our lives are deficient – perhaps they're just symptoms of being a person.
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In this episode of No Deep Dives, Flex starts with a brief mention of her newfound love for the movie Dune 2, highlighting its depiction of real-life issues such as colonialism and religious engineering, before diving into the main topic: suffering, stress, and Buddhism.
She discusses the nature of suffering and how it's intertwined with human existence, referencing Buddhism's Four Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path as a framework for understanding and potentially overcoming suffering.
Flex also explores the concept of karma, the impact of actions and intentions on one's future, and how modern society's perception and management of stress don't align with our evolutionary development.
Throughout the episode, she shares personal anecdotes and reflections on learning, the challenges of ethical living in a capitalist society, and the pursuit of enlightenment. The discussion extends into the societal and personal factors contributing to stress and the perpetual quest for joy and comfort amidst life's inevitable hardships.
00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives00:10 Dune 201:08 Episode Breakdown01:34 Thoughts Are Puzzles02:13 The Curious Case of Whale Lungs03:19 Rethinking Suffering05:10 Buddhism and the Nature of Suffering09:04 Understanding Karma in Buddhism10:40 Navigating the Eightfold Path to Enlightenment13:58 Reflecting on Life, Stress, and Expectations17:32 Modern Society and the Chronic Stress Dilemma19:43 Closing Thoughts and Farewell
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Is your key to freedom on the other side of the diabolically embarrassing scenario you've been avoiding? Should the 'friends to lovers' trope be saved for romance novels? Is closure real? Did your heart break when you saw Jerrod Carmichael confess his love for Tyler the Creator?
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https://www.tiktok.com/search?q=jerrod%20tyler&t=1712809364136
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Welcome back to No Deep Dives, where Flex takes us on a journey through the intricacies of human connections. In this episode, we're diving into the delicate dance of transitioning friendships into romantic entanglements, the rising tide of extreme self-awareness in society, and the profound impacts our actions have on our mental well-being.
We'll navigate the complexities of secondhand embarrassment and the ever-present fear of being labelled as 'cringe'. But fear not because we're also spotlighting the myth of meritocracy in relationships and questioning whether closure is genuinely attainable.
A highlight of this episode is a deep dive into Jerrod Carmichael's revelation about his feelings for Tyler the Creator—an exploration of the intricate tapestry of human emotions and the elusive quest for closure.
So, join us as Flex challenges us to confront the romantic tropes we've internalized and embrace the unpredictable nature of real-life relationships.
00:00 Setting the Stage for Deep Exploration
00:10 From Friends to Lovers, Fantasy v Reality
00:35 Plot Awareness to Consequence Awareness
02:16 Unpacking the Jerrod Carmichael and Tyler the Creator Incident
08:02 Debunking the Myth of Meritocracy and the Elusive Quest for Closure
11:42 Reality TV, Situationships, and the Age-Old Friends-to-Lovers Trope
17:02 Final Reflections and Farewell
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The softboys are fighting! The Pick Me(n) are turning on each other! The timeline wants to know, is the man content creating painting his nails, talking about the glass ceiling and lipsynching to Hozier a feminist or misogynist in sheeps clothing???
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https://www.tiktok.com/@quinnickleshow/video/7346640693902937390
https://www.tiktok.com/@quinickle/video/7232337055605378346?q=quinnickle&t=1712558892570
https://www.tiktok.com/@quinickle/video/7298752921800363306?q=quinnickle&t=1712558892570
https://www.tiktok.com/@angieemann/video/7182369370180422955?q=strange%20kevin&t=1712558799606
https://www.tiktok.com/@misterstrang4/video/7301150160363556139?q=strange%20kevin%20female%20gaze&t=1712558857512
https://www.tiktok.com/@tellthebeees/video/7349382297138892062?_r=1&%3B_t=8l0sr2k8DPm
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Welcome to the latest episode of No Deep Dives, hosted by Flex. Today, we're diving into the intricate world of TikTok's social dynamics. Our focus? The emergence of 'pick me men' and the intriguing concept of the female gaze.
Flex delves into the trend of men strategically distancing themselves from 'pick me' behaviours to position themselves as more self-aware than their fellow counterparts. Then dissects the evolution and occasional misinterpretations of the male gaze, ultimately leading to the emergence of the female gaze phenomenon.
Through the lens of notable TikTok creators like Strange Kevin and Quinn, we'll analyze how these trends mirror deeper societal shifts in gender dynamics, self-presentation, and the pursuit of authenticity in digital spaces.
Join Flex to challenge preconceptions and unravel the layers of these trends. Who truly benefits, and are we witnessing genuine progress or just a fresh coat of paint on age-old patriarchal norms? Let's dive in and find out.
00:33 The Rise of 'Pick Me' Men02:13 Decoding the Male Gaze05:38 The Female Gaze: A Counter-Narrative or a New Form of Objectification?11:46 TikTok's Influence: From Strange Kevin to Quinnical22:44 The Complexity of the Female Gaze: Perception vs. Reality
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Considering I only figured out the difference between emotions and feelings in 2023, it makes sense to revisit values. Words mean things and I'm determined to understand them!!!!!
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In this episode of No Deep Dives, hosted by FlexMami – Flex explores the identification and importance of personal values versus priorities, the challenges and revelations that come with trying new things like playing unfamiliar video games such as Baldur's Gate, and the value of imagination in personal growth and relationships. Flex shares insights into the difference between emotions and feelings, emphasising the need for foundational understanding in self-expression and personal development. The episode delves into core values such as imagination, agency, and the significance of rest and relaxation, highlighting Flex's approach to understanding and embodying these values through personal experiences and conflicts.
00:33 What even is a "value"????02:37 Emotions vs Feelings vs Values08:40 Flex's 3 Values: Imagination, Agency, and Rest
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What happens when violence BY MEN against women is documented in real-time by said women on TikTok? What if this caused such severe outrage that the perpetrator was found and apprehended in days? Have you heard about the femicide in South Korea and the 4B Movement created in response?
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https://www.tiktok.com/@halleykate/video/7350308300317314350?lang=en
https://www.tiktok.com/@corabrei/video/7350874328407231786
https://www.tiktok.com/@dylan.page/video/7351882826792308001?_r=1&_t=8l9OKpxQ5A7
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In this episode of No Deep Dives, hosted by FlexMami a pressing issue is discussed regarding a series of unprovoked and violent attacks on women in New York City. These assaults were initially considered isolated incidents until victims started sharing their experiences on TikTok, revealing a shocking pattern of similar attacks. The podcast explores various aspects of these incidents, including the public's reaction, the potential reasons behind the attacks, and the broader societal implications. It highlights the lack of empathy and understanding towards the victims and delves into themes of misinformation, patriarchal violence, and the impact of social media. The episode concludes with a commentary on how these events are reflective of deeper issues within society, urging listeners to remain vigilant and engage in discussions about violence against women. Flex also touches upon an alarming trend from the past, likened to the 'knockout game', and the disturbing normalization of such acts of violence.Furthermore, the arrest of a suspect, Skiboki Stora, is mentioned, which raises more questions about the systemic issues allowing such individuals to repeatedly commit these crimes.
00:10 Unprovoked Attacks in NYC03:59 Victim Blaming and Misinformation07:16 Commercialising Safety10:45 Broken Social Contract Broken13:58 Patriarchy's Role18:13 The Arrest22:13 Global Perspective26:20 Closing Thoughts: The World is a Scary Place
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Well, at least now it's abundantly clear that I really do take my dreams seriously. Why did I shave my head? It came to me ... in a dream (literally).
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In this episode of No Deep Dives, Flex discusses her decision to shave her head exploring the strangely personal and societal implications of her choice. The discussion covers Flex's textbook impulsive nature, the sensation of freeing herself and a reflection on femininity and masculinity. Flex then delves into the complex relationship between blackness and hair, challenging stereotypes and attempting to embrace a more authentic self-expression. The episode also covers the adjustments to her beauty routine, the unexpected social changes post-buzz cut, and the redefinition of her own perception of beauty. Flex's experiences with strangers, the maintenance required for short hair, and the broader personal and social reflections form the core of this insightful podcast episode.
00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives01:16 The Decision to Shave My Head04:37 The Impact of Going Bald06:02 Relationship Between Blackness and Hair10:48 Life Post-Buzz Cut20:56 The Maintenance of a Buzz Cut22:17 Reflecting on the Journey and Community Engagement
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I'm microdosing an official book club by keeping you in the loop of what I'm reading. It spans from spicy to existential, but surely that doesn't surprise you.
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00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives: A FlexMami Podcast00:10 Rediscovering the Joy of Reading: From Fiction to Nonfiction01:01 Diving into 'Fall of Wrath and Ruin': A Spicy Book Review05:16 Exploring 'Pedagogy of the Oppressed': A Deep Dive into Education09:25 The Nepo Baby Debate and Pursuing Dreams11:00 Navigating the World of Sarah J Maas and Book Controversies12:22 The Idea of a Banned Book Club12:39 Closing Thoughts and Community Engagement
In this episode of 'No Deep Dives,' Flex discusses her return to giving book recommendations despite previous reservations, sparked by a desire to encourage reading both fiction and non-fiction. She reviews 'Fall of Wrath and Ruin' by Jennifer Armentrout, sharing her mixed feelings about the book's pacing and character dynamics while recommending Kindle Unlimited for book lovers. Flex then discusses 'Pedagogy of the Oppressed' by Paolo Freire, reflecting on traditional education's limitations and the potential for oppressed groups to envision change. The podcast also touches on the concept of nepotism and privilege, using musician Fred again as a case study to explore how privilege can impact one's ability to pursue dreams. Flex hints at starting a book club focusing on banned books and invites listeners to join their community for further discussions.
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The implication of being the generation set to shake things up, is that you stay shook up. When (as of 2024) Gen Z spans from 12-27, what is there to learn about them that doesn't feel like wild assumptions? Also who is going to keep us in the loop of the Chronically Offline Zoomers? Read the report here.
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00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives: Acknowledging the Land 00:10 The Fascination with Online Surveys and Gen Z Trends00:26 Diving Deep into the Live Nation Report on Gen Z01:56 What's In and What's Out According to Gen Z02:27 The Skepticism Around Data Collection and Its Implications03:51 Exploring the Complexities of Gen Z's Identity and Consumption11:01 The Influence of Millennials on Gen Z and the Future of Cool16:35 Concluding Thoughts and How to Connect with the Podcast Community In this episode of No Deep Dives, FlexMami discusses the results of a recent report released by Live Nation exploring Gen Z trends and culture in 2024. The episode critiques the methodology of such reports, questioning their accuracy and the potential biases in their data collection processes. Flex raises concerns about oversimplification and generalising Gen Z's characteristics and highlights how advertisers and brands may miss the mark in understanding this demographic through superficial surveys. The discussion also touches on Gen Z's diverse interests, from dopamine dressing to antinatalism, and critiques the notion of generational identity being largely shaped by online consumption patterns. Furthermore, Flex reflects on the role of older generations in shaping Gen Z's culture and the importance of authentic representation in media. The podcast concludes with a call for more nuanced and responsible approaches to understanding and engaging with Gen Z. -
Can a titanium piece of smart jewellery really help you meet your wellness goals? Or is the Oura Ring the latest micro-trend gadget nobody needs?
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00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives: Acknowledging the Land00:10 Flexmami's Oura Ring Journey Begins00:52 The Oura Ring Experience: Expectations vs. Reality02:03 Diving Deeper into the Oura Ring's Features and Claims02:46 The Oura Ring Review: A Personal Experiment04:29 Pros, Cons, and the Verdict on the Oura Ring07:40 Reflecting on the Oura Ring and Broader Wellness Tech10:51 Closing Thoughts and Community Engagement
In this episode of No Deep Dives, Flex provides a semi-comprehensive review of her two-month experience with the Oura Ring. Despite initial excitement about the gadget's promise to track sleep and overall wellness through various metrics, she ultimately does not recommend it. Flex discusses the Oura Ring's features, including its ability to monitor heart rate, blood oxygen level, and provide 20 different biometrics. However, she critiques the usefulness and accuracy of the data provided, expressing confusion and disappointment over the lack of actionable insights derived from the statistics. She also mentions the need for a subscription to access full app functionalities. Flex expresses concern over the potential for developing a dependency on the device for health and wellness insights. Overall, Flexmami's review is mixed, highlighting the novelty of the Oura Ring but questioning its practicality and effectiveness in contributing to a better understanding of one's health.
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Who knew the answer to all my problems was talking to myself first thing in the morning? I took a month-long social media hiatus, then returned as a JOURNALING MONSTER. Now, according to you, I'm glowing differently, my attitude has improved, and I have a way better understanding of who I am, what I want and what I need.The book I reference is The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron. DIVE DEEPER
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00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives: The Flexmami Podcast00:10 The Unexpected Journey into Journaling00:48 The Morning Pages: A Deep Dive02:22 The Transformative Power of Morning Pages04:07 Navigating the Morning Pages: Tips and Insights06:25 The Personal Impact of Morning Pages07:31 Morning Pages: Beyond the Basics07:57 The Discipline and Discovery of Morning Pages25:20 Reflections and Future Directions27:54 Signing Off: The Cult of Morning PagesIn this episode of 'No Deep Dives,' Flex discusses her transformative experience with writing morning pages, attributed to Julia Cameron’s book 'The Artist's Way.' Starting from the point of scepticism towards routine and disciplined practices, Flex recounts how a month-long social media hiatus led her to adopt and rigorously maintain a routine of writing three pages of stream-of-consciousness journaling first thing every morning. She shares how this practice impacted her mental clarity, creativity, self-discovery, and discipline, even amidst challenges like illness and lack of motivation. Through this journey, she uncovers the essence of morning pages as a form of meditation and mental purging to facilitate a deeper connection with oneself. Flex illuminates the importance of engaging with this practice without dilution or shortcuts, advocating for its raw, therapeutic potential to emerge only when done as intended. She wraps up the episode by addressing frequently asked questions about the practice, emphasizing the unique personal insights and 'epiphanies' one discovers through consistent engagement with morning pages. -
Do you live in the UK, the US or Australia? Has your emotional, mental and social well-being been on a steady decline for ages? I KNOW WHY!!!! This episode might validate you.Sapien Labs released its 4th Annual Mental State Of The World Report, and the stats are troubling. We have been told that Australia is the lucky country, the land of plenty. Shouldn't this mean that we're happy too? People are suffering!!
You can read the report here.
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00:00 Acknowledging the Land and Introducing the Podcast00:10 The Global Mental Health Crisis: Insights and Surprising Findings01:04 Diving Deep into the Mental State of the World Report06:12 Australia's Mental Health Issue08:23 The Three Culprits Behind the Mental Wellbeing Decline13:39 Cultural Reflections and the Quest for Better Mental Health22:08 Taking the Mental Wellbeing Quiz: A Personal Journey24:17 Wrapping Up and How to Stay Connected
In this episode of No Deep Dives, Flex discusses the findings of a recent mental health report, mainly focusing on Australians' mental well-being compared to other countries. Flex explores various factors affecting mental health, including smartphone use, consumption of ultra-processed food, and diminished family bonds.The report indicates a significant decline in mental well-being, especially among younger generations, and challenges narratives about the quality of life in different countries. Flex reflects on the cultural perceptions of mental health and societal expectations, urging listeners to reconsider their understanding of mental well-being and the factors contributing to it.The episode concludes with Flex sharing her own mental health quiz results and inviting listeners to join a discussion about the topic.
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Is a feminist utopia the fairytale we've all been dreaming of? Though not all unicorns and fairy dust, Tineke Willemsen says it's "a place where at least women would like to live".
DOES THAT SOUND LIKE SOMETHING THAT INTERESTS YOU? Send this to your best friend, family group chat and your situationship. 2024 and beyond is the year of Matriarchy propaganda, hehe.
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00:00 Introduction and Acknowledgement00:17 Understanding Matriarchy and Patriarchy00:55 The State of the World and the Need for Change02:00 The Concept of a Feminist Utopia02:18 Understanding the Difference between Matriarchal and Matrilineal Societies02:36 The Journey Towards a Matriarchy03:17 Understanding Patriarchy and its Impacts04:24 The Struggle with Patriarchy05:07 The Definition and Implications of Patriarchy06:07 The Reality of Patriarchy and its Effects09:07 The Vision of a Matriarchy09:32 The Resistance to Matriarchy10:14 The Potential of a Matriarchy10:42 The Power Dynamics in a Matriarchy14:48 The Concept of Privilege in Patriarchy15:54 The Fear of Losing Power16:43 Conclusion and Final Thoughts -
Why is every hot, sexy and cerebral person drawn to spirituality? Is it leading us to eventual enlightenment? Or just a creative coping mechanism for the symptoms of being a human?
In this episode Flex discusses why she's so drawn to spirituality, that time she met a witchdoctor's hawks (read that twice) and how spirituality fills in the gaps of what our physical experience can't.
Then dives deep into the nature of truth versus facts, the role of personal experiences in shaping our reality, and the potential limitations imposed by societal norms and personal biases.
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00:00 Introduction and Acknowledgement00:16 Exploring Spirituality and the Unseen01:55 The Mystery of Trees and the Unseen02:59 Physicality vs Spirituality04:25 The Depth of Perception06:11 The Adventure of Self-Exploration08:30 The Limitations of Our Understanding09:06 The Power of Individual Spirituality09:48 The Witch Doctor's Hawks: A Ghanaian Experience11:22 The Freedom of the Spiritual Realm15:47 The Complexity of Truth and Fact17:02 The Intersection of Societal Norms and Personal Truth17:46 Conclusion: The Invitation to Open Dialogue18:28 Outro: Podcast Wrap-up -
Is there even a difference these days? What is it about our compulsion to slap inflammatory labels on things? Is it an accurate summation, misogyny or a secret third thing?
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00:00 Introduction and Acknowledgement00:38 The Controversy Around Nara Smith's Content01:44 Exploring the Mormon Connection02:37 The Shift in Audience Perception04:41 The Trad Wife Debate06:43 The Role of Appearance in Content Perception07:17 The Misogynoir in Content Critique08:36 Comparing Nara Smith and Ballerina Farm09:23 The Propaganda Argument10:34 The Impact of Appearance on Perception11:11 The Bigger Picture: Patriarchy and Misogyny11:37 The Role of Religion in Content Creation12:28 The Danger of Borrowed Takes17:50 The Intersection of Media Consumption18:02 Conclusion and Call to Action -
What if you were the gatekeeper of a divine realm? Would you turn into a power-hungry egomaniac or an empathetic assistant?
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00:00 Introduction: Thoughts on God and Morality00:40 The Concept of Life's Circle and Spirals01:31 Imagining Heaven's Entry Criteria02:23 The Dilemma of Judging Good and Bad05:03 The Trickster's Approach to Heaven's Entry06:03 Exploring Dante's Inferno: The Nine Levels of Hell08:42 The Confusion of Earth as a Hellish Place09:40 Choosing Your Own Hell: A Personal Perspective -
Flex chats about MAFS and how it might be the gateway drug for arranged marriages in Australia.
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00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:10 Exploring the Concept of Arranged Marriages00:23 Reality TV and Modern Dating Dynamics00:57 Personal Experiences and Cultural Insights02:04 Understanding the Purpose of Arranged Marriages02:46 Economic Prosperity vs Love in Marriages03:18 The Logic Behind Arranged Marriages03:46 The Challenges of Modern Dating03:51 Questioning the Morality of Common Practices04:15 The Pros and Cons of Arranged Marriages04:40 Divorce in the Context of Arranged Marriages05:57 The Economics of Marriage and Divorce06:21 The Influence of Perception and Culture09:57 The Flaws in Modern Traditions11:38 The Paradox of Agency and Suppression11:56 The Stigma of Divorce12:45 Conclusion and Podcast Sign-offCONTACT
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Logie-Nominee, best-selling author, and award-winning podcaster FlexMami decodes the riddle of life. Each episode is earnest, optimistic, opinionated, sometimes superficial and never judgmental. Perfect for ruminators, over-thinkers and serial generalists searching for meaning (never resolution!). DIVE DEEPERNo Deep Dives TikTokNo Deep Dives InstagramNo Deep Dives SubstackNo Deep Dives SlackTIMESTAMPS00:00 Introduction and Acknowledgement00:06 The Birth of 'No Deep Dives'00:18 The Intersection of Chaos and Conventional00:32 The Purpose of 'No Deep Dives'00:39 The Tone of the [email protected]
